“Be kind to yourself and others”. It’s probably one of the mantras that should guide most people’s life. But let’s face it…in a world where we forgot to get in tune with our own emotions, where there’s so much hatred and judgement, being kind to oneself can sometimes feel almost unnatural.
We are so quick to judge…ourselves and others. No one wants to be called judgemental but deep down if you’re honest enough you know that you too are guilty of being judgemental at times. Let’s face it, most times you’re being judgemental with the most important person in your life, YOURSELF.
Being a former perfectionist I have a pretty good idea how this feels. You have this false belief that perfectionism will enable you to achieve great things. In truth, you always beat yourself up over tiny mistakes and can’t let go of unimportant stuff. Furthermore, this just stops you from actually achieving what you set to do. Eventually, you just feel like you’re not good enough and this prevents you from moving forward and making any kind of progress.
Think about it how many times you catch yourself making a comment like “I am so silly/I am so stupid/I am so…(fill in the gap)” and it’s mainly over things that really aren’t even meaningful.
Beating yourself over tiny things, will stop you from progressing. And most importantly won’t enable you to be the best version of yourself!
I see this happening with a lot of people around me and it’s sad. Who cares if you didn’t know how to do a certain thing or if you messed up? It’s called learning curve, embrace it. We expect to do everything right all the time and when it doesn’t go our way, we are our own worst critics. Furthermore, it’s absolutely ridiculous to believe we should go through life without messing up. This notion will push you towards a “safe” life and you will be too afraid to get out of our comfort zone for fear that you can’t do it. As a result, living this way will actually prevent you from living to your true potential.
How does ‘be kind’ relate to living a healthy lifestyle?
I very often see this happening with people who are trying to lead a healthier life or simply trying to lose weight, exercise more and so on. There’s this expectation that change should occur overnight and when it doesn’t happen the first person to blame is, of course, ourself. And most of the times we are being very judgemental and unkind towards our own bodies. We forget that they carry us everywhere and that they perform lots of different functions on a daily basis and work hard to support us. So be kind to your body too! Remember: Change is hard and uncomfortable, it requires consistency, building new habits, a lot of hard work and motivation. And sometimes there is no motivation and you can’t buy it in a shop. All you need to do is just show up and do the work. You won’t get it right all the time and that’s okay. You will fall off the wagon but then you can get back on it, all that matters is that you keep trying, do what’s best for you and most importantly you remember to be kind.
Whatever you’re struggling with at the moment, whatever you set up to do, just BE KIND, you will get there! 🙂
If you need more resources on how to build an extraordinary life without judgement this video here is pretty awesome, featuring two of my favourite people too Marie Forleo & Tony Robbins. Also a great book that I recommend which has completely changed my outlook on life and it’s awesome if you’re a perfectionist is “The gifts of imperfection” from the amazing Brené Brown.
Set yourself a little challenge, can you be kind to yourself and others for a week in row? I think if you really set the intention and put your mind to it, you can achieve it. I would love to hear from you in the comments below: what’s one thing in your life right now that you could be kinder towards?
Focus on the good… always!
Don’t forget: Sharing is caring – If you think this could help a friend, colleague or loved one, be kind and spread the word (ᵔᴥᵔ)