Saying “NO” can be very tricky at times, wouldn’t you agree?
If you’re anything like me you always like to know that you can help or support those around you or your loved ones in one way or another. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with doing that, quite the opposite. I am a great believer that being kind, compassionate and offering to help is one of the ways you can give back to the world whilst feeling fulfilled. It helps us understand that life is more than just about us.
But what happens when you always give back to others, without considering the most important person in your life: YOURSELF
You’ll most likely burn the candle at both ends, be completely miserable, frustrated and feel like you “have” to do certain things just because others around you expect it.
Let me tell you this, I was this person up until recently and it didn’t serve me or the ones around me very well.
Being burnt out, feeling constantly exhausted and miserable is counter productive and guaranteed to bring unhappiness.
But isn’t that what caring for others is about?
No, not really. The way I see it now is: caring for YOU is the best gift you can give yourself and others. And not in a selfish way..not at all. Think about it this way..if you’re not at your best how can you give your best to others? You simply cannot.
If you’re pleasing those around you but not yourself how can you truly experience joy and fulfilment? You simply cannot.
And if this doesn’t entice you, here’s 5 simple reason why saying “NO” more often can be massively beneficial
1.You will create more space for you
You can’t help if you’re not at your best
You have to show yourself love and support before you offer it to others
You will attract more abundance in your life and attract the right people
2. You will create space for new opportunities
- You have time and space to do what you really like
- You can connect with the people that truly matter
- You can take up new activities that actually bring you joy
3. You will realise you cannot please everyone
- Focus on please the person that matters the most, YOURSELF 😉
4. Saying “NO” will clarify your needs
- Realise you simply don’t have the bandwidth to saying yes to everything
- Prioritise what is important
- Let go of what is not
5. Boundary setting is a practice in mindfulness
- Being a “YES WOMAN” won’t allow you to “just be”
- Practice saying “No” as an experiment
- Don’t feel guilty about it
- Unless it lights you up and it’s a “Hell yeah!”, don’t do it!
Now, I would love for you to take some practical action steps. Here’s 4 ways how:
- Write a list of things you can say no to
- What new opportunities does it bring?
- How do you feel about it?
- Who are the people you want to spend time with?
Share your AHA’s in the comments below. Does seeing things from this angle bring a new perspective into your life?
Focus on the good and be kind to you & others!