If you know me a little bit or have read my stuff so far you probably know that I am a recovering perfectionist.
This transition started a few years back when I came across Brené Brown and her “Gifts of imperfection”. However, it wasn’t up until recently (more in the last year or so) that I have embraced my imperfections fully. Saying that, if I am completely honest, I do have days of relapse and procrastination …oops! But that’s okay…after all, I am not perfect!
If you, like me, have struggled with being a perfectionist or are struggling right now, you know that perfectionism’s best friend is procrastination. Well, hello there, let’s grow old and happy together! And old you will grow…not sure about the happy part…
You and I both know that you live in a constant state of procrastination because ..well how can you move forward? It needs to be perfect before you do.
You see, when you need everything to be perfect, perfectly organised and everything needs to go according to plan, it can get very overwhelming. Not to mention stressful! You live with this constant fear: the image you create around you has to be perfect but what if it’s not? Most of times, this is how you are perceived: Perfect
But not in your head…because if it’s not YOUR standard of PERFECT, is not good enough!
If you want to live your life in a constant state of stress, then kudos to you…definitely on the right track! But if you’re hoping for a chilled & happy pathway then you’re stuck. Let’s face it, as much as we love adrenaline, we need our quiet moments too…to recharge if nothing more!
Here’s few reasons why I find the mantra progression over perfection so liberating:
It implies you’re a work in progress and constantly working at bettering yourself. This is what I personally seek in life
It implies you’re constantly learning and growing
You go through life overcoming your fears even when it’s the last thing you would want to do
You don’t have to have a perfectly clean home all the time and that’s okay – if people want to judge you for it, it’s on them, not on you!
It takes so much pressure of you & it helps you focus on the things that really truly matter…Hello Gratitude!
It forces you to be less judgemental of yourself and others (which let’s admit comes in handy as it’s hard not to judge most times!)
It teaches you compassion and understanding of one self first and foremost & of others
Life is messy, there’s always situations out of your control, just let go!
You’ll have more fun (I know you’re probably wondering: How?) because letting go equals accepting that sometimes is just is what it is…full stop!
Acceptance and self-acceptance are a great learning curve
And of course hello Adaptability (great skill to have, take my word for it!)
Most of all …you’ll progress, because Done trumps Perfect any day, every day, every time!
Imagine how freaking liberating it is to just let go?
If you too are struggling with this, there’s one simple thing you too can start applying today and that is …*drum rolls* …learning to let go
perfect outcomes & things that go according to plan always
a world where everyone is acting the way you expect them to
having the expectation to always say the right thing, do a perfect job & never make mistakes
fear of failure
Can you smell progress in the air? I thought so!
I also have a cool Ted Talk suggestion for you “Inside the mind of a master procrastinator” by Tim Urban which I am sure you’ll love!
Hit me up in the comments below and let me know if too are a recovering perfectionist or struggling with it right now 😉
Focus on the good,