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Do you ever wish you could slow down and enjoy your life more? Yes, me too….It sometimes feels like we don’t have enough hours in the day to do the things that really set our soul on fire or to enjoy the company of loved ones. We’re constantly running on this treadmill that actually leads nowhere whilst at the same time we seem to forget how to actually live, how to play more often and discard the things that don’t serve us.
I’ve recently went through a “busy” period that left me feeling completely drained – although I dislike using the word busy because it implies you’re all over the place and don’t actually focus on what matters. Oh the irony! Don’t we just love using this word as a society? Why is that? Is it because it implies we’re so important and get lots of stuff done? It’s actually the opposite because when we keep so “busy” we actually forget to look inside and see what really matters.
But how long are you going to stay busy? 1, 2, 5, 10 years from now? And what’s going to happen in the meantime? Are you going to be completely burned out, depleted of joy and perhaps even depressed? I don’t know about you but I want to really enjoy the simple things, travel more, spend more time with loved ones, do all those things I dreamt about and have experiences I haven’t even considered. I believe we’re here right now to grow, constantly learn and evolve, really get to know ourselves, connect with each other, be curious and kind and just enjoy being present and in the moment. So let’s do that, shall we? Let’s enjoy this sweet adventure called life before our next one.
Here’s a few things you can start doing today to live more 😉
Let go of the guilt – let them judge
Let’s face it you’re never going to be able to please everyone and guess what you shouldn’t even try. People around you will be disappointed? Not your problem! It’s perfectly fine to disappoint people. Learn how to let go of your guilt and enjoy life. If you spend too much time living up to other people’s standards you’re actually not spending enough time raising your own. Sure enough some people will judge you and that’s okay – they are not the sort of people you want to focus on anyway. Most times, it’s actually all in your head and no one cares about your actions as much as you think. Don’t take it personally, it’s just the fact that everyone around is dealing with their own issues. But the times when you’re being judged and you feel tempted to listen to the negative talk around you just remember this – it’s human nature, you might have triggered deeper issues others might have but that’s not your story… not your problem, just sayin’.
Go on a social media cleanse
Yes I admit, I love checking Facebook, following my friends and the people I admire on Instagram. But sometimes I get lost in too many videos, opinions (love reading comments and see how people perceive the same thing completely different) and generally feels like I am spending too much time on other people’s lives than my own. It’s so easy to make you feel like you’re missing out…. Whatever circumstances you’re in right now the thing you should remember is this: your life is awesome… flaws and all. So if, like me, you find yourself way down the social media rabbit hole simply disconnect for a bit. You don’t need to delete your account but you might just need to tidy up. Remember you’re ultimately in control of your newsfeed so whatever brings you down discard, your job is to always do your best and raise your vibration.
Trust yourself (and others) more
I love this quote one of my yoga teachers ends the class with “We’re never separated but always connected”. It’s actually so easy to forget. We create this divide in our head ‘them’ vs ‘us’ but ultimately we’re all wired the same and we all long the connection with another human being, we want to be seen for who we are and trusted. Trust is at the core of every healthy relationship. Trusting yourself and that things will work out eventually is sometimes all you really need. But our need to control everything can affect our trust in ourselves and others. So have a little faith, will you? Remember everyone is doing their best with the tools they have and that includes you too.
Be wise with your priorities
You want to be the perfect friend, lover, parent and have the perfect job, business, body, go on amazing adventures, never miss an opportunity and you want all the things at once. The real question you should ask is: Do you really want it all? Perhaps just start with what “having it all” means to you. Most often than not saying “No” will actually create more space in your life for the things that really matter. So be wise with your choices, prioritise the things that really bring you joy.
You are enough and worthy, just be!
This is a big one!!! For me and for all the people I know. Whenever I have conversations with people it’s always going back to “being enough”. It’s still a big one for me that I am constantly working on. I am learning how to be still everyday, how to be more present and how to enjoy being without having to tick off things on my “to do list”. In stillness you find the answers, in stillness you discover what you truly want and in stillness you unleash more creativity. Doing nothing is the best thing you can do sometimes, is the best investment in yourself whilst being the hardest thing to do at the same time. Remember you are enough and worthy right now… even when you’re still.
Focus on the good,